When my sons were little….

Rachna and I have raised our two boys hands-on ourselves without any help from any ayah or mother or relatives. We are very proud of that. Now, they have grown up into two little brats who squabble a lot over many things but above all they are two good little fellas. But we still do remember the times when they were little and recalling their antics cracks us up.

As first time parents of a boy there was a lot of learning going on. We didn’t know that boys and girls have different types of diapers. The boy’s diapers had extra room for their wee-wee 🙂 Oh and one of the first lessons a parent of a boy learns is to keep the boy’s wee-wee down when putting a new diaper on the baby. So that when he pees it doesn’t wet the t-shirt or onesie the boy is wearing 🙂 Always attend to the wee-wee first and hide it under the diaper even when putting a new diaper. Because you never know when he will let out a golden fountain 🙂

The first two months for both our babies was a terrible one for us. The elder one had colic and the younger one had acid reflux. So, both of them used to keep us awake at night. For the elder one’s colic we used to do a small trick which we had picked up during our lamaze classes. We used to put him in the car seat and take him for a car ride. We used to keep driving circles of our block until he slept off. We would then silently bring him into the house on our tip-toes. But more often than not he used to wake up as soon as we opened the door of our house. Those were stressful times but it cracks us up thinking about it now.

Slowly we started to bring a routine on the boy. We used to give him a warm water bath before putting him to bed. We never missed to put a body lotion after his bath. It kept his skin from drying in the dry air of the summer. And, of course, a fresh diaper. Then feed him until he was satisfied. This routine never failed us in getting that much needed rest that we deserved after the whole day of looking after him 🙂 In the morning our little bundle of joy woke up with such sweet smell around him. It felt like to just keeping on sniffing him. He had to have his feed as soon as he woke up.

When my elder son grew up a bit it was his favroite past-time to ask me to draw his favorite logos when were retiring to go to bed. He used to watch a lot of commercials on the TV. So he was very familiar with the logos of the popular brands like Maruti, Hyundai Santro, etc. I had once indulged him by drawing him the logo of Maruti and Hyundai. And he would never tire of asking me to draw it again and again, day after day. And I would be very happy to do for him.

There were many such sweet little antics my boys indulged in when they were very little. More on them later. I was seeing this commercial on the TV when I felt I needed to relive these memories:


Time to wipe the cobwebs from our marriage

It has been a little over 14 years since our marriage. And we are going strong. Both of us know everything about each other. She knows my vices and I know hers. She knows my strengths and I hers. And we think we can go on like this till the end of our lives. But we have our quarrels too. And those are the times when things like these are said “You were a different person when we were newly married”, “You were not so critical of me then”, “Now, I don’t seem like the one and only princess in your eyes”.

Come on folks, I don’t think any long-term relationship is devoid of these unhappy moments. When it seems like saying hurtful things to your partner is the way to resolve your fights. Then, there are those times when the fight is resolved that you think that your relationship needs careful reflection on our parts. It is during these times when we need to think of ways to recharge our relationship to the levels we were at just after marriage. And, I am in one of those moods today. Hey, it is going to be 14th February pretty soon. What better time than this to rekindle the flame between us.

On this Valentine’s Day, I am thinking of proposing to her in a very wild way which will take me to a space which is totally out of my skin. What else will kick-start our flame back to the original levels? First I must start with the things she likes:

  1. Like all women she too has a weakness for flowers. Since this is our 15th year of marriage, I am planning on giving her 14 bouquets of flowers for each year of marriage! 🙂
  2. She loves food. Especially, sea-food 🙂 And what’s more? Our favourite restaurant in the town is having a seafood festival going on. Yay!
  3. She loves to watch mostly Hindi movies. And she’s saying that she wants to watch “Roy”. And what perfect timing for that too!

What else? Feb 14th is a Saturday. So, the kids too will be at home!

So the plan is like this: In the morning I have arranged for a florist to deliver one bouquet of flower every half an hour. What is the fun in delivering all the bouquets at once? 🙂 And where is the boldness in the idea? Then by 12:30pm when we have worked an appetite after all the rolling on the floor laughing bouts, we will be moving our party to our favourite restaurant. I have already arranged for a cake to be delivered there with the message “I still love you madly”. I have purchased a gold ring with which I plan to propose to her once again in front of all the people who are dining there. This is something which is totally out of my skin, and this is the only part of the plan I am shuddering about. 🙂 Then for 3pm I will book a show for “Roy”. We will be back home by 7pm when I open our favourite wine bottle, and we’ll spend the evening watching the recordings of our favourite TV series which we usually record and keep for the weekends.

So, all in all, if all goes according to my plans it will be a day that my babe will not forget in a long time. Here, I’d like to thank Close Up for giving me this radical idea of rekindling our love by proposing to my one and only crush! 🙂